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November/December, 2019  

November/December Newsletter

Unlock Your Potential

Silencing the Inner Critic for Career Success

Kay Fittes, December, 2019

Is your career being driven by that nasty little voice in your head?  Much has been written about how negative self-talk is damaging to your self-esteem.  A stronger light needs to be shown on the career damage you can do.  You may call these behaviors cognitive distortions, stinking thinking, or negative self-talk.  Regardless, the result is the same – career self-sabotage.  Here is my promise:  these behaviors can be managed and you can experience a career boost as a result!  Is that enough of a promise to keep on reading?

What kind of distorted thinking are we talking about here?  Check out the short list below and ask yourself if you are in the habit of thinking or saying any of these:

  1. All-or-nothing thinking:  You look at things as either black or white.  You are either the most skilled marketing professional in the world or an incompetent who should have never been hired.

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Each month in this section, Kay offers actionable career consulting tips.

Managing Cognitive Distortions:  Silence that Inner Critic

  1. The AHA Step:  Change starts with awareness.  For the next week listen for these distortions.  Keep a running list on your phone or another easy method.  You will likely be shocked by the frequency in which these are popping up during your work day.  Plus, watch for patterns.  Which distortions are your great anchor?

  2. The STOP Step:  Tell yourself, “Stop Pam, you are jumping to conclusions.”  If you are by yourself, say it out loud.  If you are with others, not a good plan!  Saying it in your own mind can be quite powerful.

  3. The POP Step:  Similar to the technique for changing other behaviors, wearing a rubber band around your wrist and giving yourself a gentle POP is a valuable physical reminder to stop and reassess.

  4. The GOP Step:  Give Other Possibilities.  Instead of assuming that you are being devalued in your work place, perhaps your name was left off the list accidently.  Let’s say it happens more frequently, what would your best friend say to you at a time like this?  You likely say things to yourself that you would never say to another person.  Here is where the true power exists, when you ask yourself what other possibilities might be in play, then you begin to empower yourself.

If the actions above only scratched the surface for you and you need guidance in developing additional skills for career success, please reach out to me at 513-561-4288 or email me at

Client Testimonial – Allyson Blythe

Allyson Blythe

From the moment I met Kay at a local event, I have just been wowed by her energy, insight, and wisdom.  Her introduction immediately peaked my interest and from then on, I was sold!  The tips she shared that day were easy and practical.  I immediately implemented some of her suggestions into my next talk.  Kay was fun, sassy, and incredibly helpful upon just our first meeting.

Of course I took full advantage of the initial call she offered.  Our phone call offered further insight, helpfulness, and practical tips.  I spent years spinning my wheels, trying to go in so many different directions that I rarely got anything done because of the chronic sense of overwhelm and disorganization.  After just a few minutes on the phone, I had clarity, direction, and focus with actionable steps.

Investing in myself, my career, and my dreams has granted me productivity, joy, effectiveness, and the ability to make my own dreams come true.  Kay helped me structure and systematize my day, material, and energy in a way that has allowed me to finally develop the programs I’ve been trying to create and added ease into my day.  She is prompt, insightful, and available to offer her experience and wisdom.  Our relationship has allowed support, direction, and clarity.  Having the structure, accountability, and guidance have allowed me to be of such powerful service to my clients without the stress and strain of disorganization and overwhelm.

I gained clarity about my mission and true life purpose:  “Making the world a better place, one interaction at a time.”  I make decisions more easily and effectively because I have a clear vision, mission, and purpose.  Even just a few calls in, my life is profoundly improved and allows me to be of such higher service to myself and others.  Thanks Kay!!

Allyson Blythe
Certified Life Coach and LCSW
Phone:  (859)341-7773

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