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January/February, 2018  

January/February Newsletter

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Don’t Let Women’s Unique Vulnerabilities Get in Your Way

Kay Fittes, February, 2018

It’s February, the middle of winter…blah, blah, blah, am I right?!  While we’re plugging along at work and also juggling the many roles women have, we often struggle to take care of ourselves.  Valentine’s Day and Heart Health Month remind me that this is the most important time to be sure that we value and love ourselves first.  My mentor mantra for women is:  Take care of yourself, so you can be the best version of yourself with your family and in the workplace.

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Kay Fittes

Each month in this section, Kay offers actionable career consulting tips.

Priority #1:  YOU

  1. Value yourself.  What do you say when someone compliments you?  Do you unload some ridiculous reason why you don’t deserve the compliment?  For example, you explain that you didn’t have much time to prepare, so the presentation wasn’t really good, or you just threw yourself together, so you can’t possibly look nice.  Just take the compliment and reply with a simple, “thank you.”  If you need responses to professional accolades, we will be demonstrating a powerful response formula at our March 24 workshop.

  2. Lessen your responsibility.  To take more time for yourself, you will need to take something off your plate.  Realistically ask yourself, what one thing are you willing to take off your plate and what will you do for yourself in exchange?  Taking time for yourself is best achieved when you avoid being a martyr or sacrificing yourself when you need to be delegating or asking for help.

  3. Nurture yourself.  Ask yourself what you value?  Think about how you like to spend your time, then do it.  If there’s someone at work you would like to get to know better or someone you think could help you get to the next level, schedule a lunch.  If you used to love to dance, sign up for a class.  If you miss reading or any other pastime, carve out time and enjoy yourself.

If you need additional guidance in prioritizing YOU, please consider a coaching relationship with me.  Give me a call at (513) 561-4288 or connect with me via email at

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Client Case Study - Lois Hamill

Lois Hamill

I attended the 2016 Northern Kentucky Chamber of Commerce Women’s Initiative Leadership Summit.  I just happened to attend Kay’s session and by the end of an hour she had wowed me.  I was inspired by the Leadership conference and wanted to improve my own leadership skills.  I decided to take the next step professionally and work with Kay as my personal coach.

It was as if she had known me for years.  She seemed to know me so well, understood what I might be struggling with and offered concrete suggestions.  We started by identifying some areas on which to work.

Each telephone call was structured and organized around a topic.  If I had homework, we discussed what worked or what was a challenge.  Kay gently asked probing questions like what might I have done differently, what would happen if I considered …, or what did I learn from the situation.

Kay helped me see perspectives I might have missed or reaffirmed my conclusions if they were accurate but I was uncertain.  Calls usually ended with something specific for me to try or to work on before the next call.  Because Kay wanted to ensure I was benefitting from the coaching and she was meeting my needs, she ended by asking what was most beneficial for me in that call.  At times, this informed what we worked on for the next session.

I had been working on more effective use of my time, identifying work tasks that were more strategically significant, better alignment of my time with strategic tasks based on a priority rating I assigned, and improved budgeting of time for a task based on its priority rating.  While mulling this all over after one call, suddenly I was able to see how to integrate three or four of these using a tool called a Priority Grid.  I saw how what initially seemed to be unrelated topics actually could work together.

Kay is very perceptive and asked questions that made me think deeper about a given topic.  She also brought new perspectives to the discussion to help me see it differently and get mentally unstuck.  This enabled me to see possibilities I previously hadn’t seen and develop actions to try that felt comfortable for me.

I was under considerable stress during some of the time I worked with Kay, because I was being pushed to complete a book manuscript at a much faster pace than I had intended.  Kay helped me think through my options at several key points and having chosen the most challenging path, helped me maximize the benefits from the choice I made.  She was able to balance our sessions between supporting me in my crisis du jour and continuing to address topics I initially identified as areas for work.

I did come away with many new ideas and tools which I plan to go back to, develop further and practice implementing.  Through working with Kay, I have changed and have become a more confident leader.  On a number of occasions in the last six months, I have been complimented by upper management for new actions or have seen my suggestion adopted.

I am closer to the end of my career than the beginning, but I seek to continuously grow and develop.  I want to be a better me.  When I chose to work with Kay, I chose to invest in myself.  I made a good decision.  If you are reading this, I would encourage you to consider whether you are worth investing in.  I suspect the answer is yes.  If it is, then it would be worth your time to speak with Kay about how she might help you work towards your goals.

Lois Hamill
University Archivist and Associate Professor Northern Kentucky University

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